Why Do I Feel So Stuck?

If you've been asking yourself this question...

come sit with me --- {{patting the cushion}}

I'm delighted to chat with you about being stuck... and our conversation may surprise you.

Feeling stuck isn't necessarily a problem - in fact...
feeling that "stuckness" is cause to celebrate!

Diving into this experience can be the beginning of something new.

Let's explore this together...

Logically...
we'd think feeling stuck is not a good thing.

We want to move.
We want answers.
We want to know what to do next.
But what if recognizing that you're feeling stuck...
is actually the bridge you've been looking for?

What if the discomfort is telling you something important?

You feel stuck because you've outgrown the thoughts and feelings that have created the life you're currently living...
and you're ready for something more...
something better.

Not because there's something wrong with you.

Because something within you is finally ready for something different.

Let’s look beneath the surface - and explore together...

Have you ever wanted something to change so badly...
and yet found yourself unable to move toward it?

You know what you want.
You may even know what you should do...
but something inside you says:

Not yet.
You can't.
Who do you think you are?
What if it doesn't work?

And then you wonder why you feel so stuck.

Here's something I've discovered through my own experience and through teaching The Game of Life for a lifetime:

Feeling stuck can be information when you use it.

When you decide you want to be, do, or have something different, an uncomfortable energy can rise up between where you are and where you want to be.

I call this Resistance Energy.

It can feel like anxious fear. It can feel like doubt. It can feel like heaviness, hesitation, paralysis, or that little voice whispering that what you want isn't really possible for you.

And here's the part I want you to notice...

The resistance isn't necessarily telling you “NO.”

Within my work, I see Resistance Energy as an opportunity to discover what's standing between you and what you want.

There may be an old belief underneath it.
A belief about who you are.
What you're capable of.
What you're allowed to have.
Whether you're good enough...
ah.... this one is monumental - and can usually be found at the core of all doubt, negative beliefs, internal lies, and problems.

You may not consciously believe those things anymore. Yet the energy connected to an old experience can still influence the way you respond when you reach for something new.

So what if feeling stuck isn't evidence that you can't move forward?  What if...
it's showing you where your power is ready to be reclaimed?

This is where acceptance becomes surprisingly powerful.  Not acceptance as in:  “Well... I guess this is my life.”
Not agreement.
Not giving up.

Simply acceptance of:  This is what my life is in this moment.

I can want something different and accept what is here right now - without judgment, without excuse, without apology, without shame -- simply acceptance.

That ends the internal fight.

And when the fight begins to quiet, there's room to recognize something else:  I have the power to create a higher outcome.

That little shift can change the entire conversation -- that little shift can change the narrative of your life.

Instead of asking, “Why can't I move?”

you can begin asking, “What is this feeling showing me... and what becomes possible when I stop fighting where I am and begin using my power from here?”

Now we're somewhere.

What becomes possible?

You don't have to have your entire life mapped out before you take your first step.
You don't have to have the whole new story plotted out.
You don't have to know how everything will unfold.
You can release that internal need to know HOW...
and begin by becoming aware of what no longer feels right.

And then... ... ... listen.

What is your heart asking for?
What feels ready to change?
What have you been tolerating that you no longer want to carry?

You don't have to answer every question today.

You only have to become willing to listen and hear the whispers of your heart.

Because there is power within you...
and it's closer than you think.

Let's Take One Gentle Step

Take a slow breath...
hold...
and on the exhale...
simply drop your jaw to release the air - don't purse your lips, just drop your jaw.

Please repeat --- deep breath --- hold --- drop your jaw to release the air.

Can you feel the tension flushing from your face and neck?

Let's do it again together...

Now state: "I accept my life as it is in this moment" without judgment, shame or guilt - simply accept "What-Is" -- and breathe into the peace of acceptance.

Then with another deep breath --- finish this sentence:  “I'm ready for more...”

Don't force the answer.
Let the first thing that comes to you...
come.

Maybe it's peace.
Maybe it's freedom.
Maybe it's love.
Maybe it's something you can't name yet.

That's okay.
Take another breath.
Then ask:  “What is one thing I know I don't want to carry forward?”

You don't have to solve your life -- just notice.

Awareness stimulates movement.

Here's a story from the Village...

One student spent much of her life searching for her true purpose.  She described feeling as though she didn't quite fit into the mainstream of life and moving through different employment paths while trying to find fulfillment.

Eventually, she began reclaiming the identity she had known inside herself all along.  She wrote about the process as one of reclaiming her identity and moving toward an increasing awareness of her life plan.

By following the breadcrumbs of feeling stuck, this student revealed the life path that has brought her the greatest joy.  Sometimes feeling stuck is the first clue that something within you is ready to be heard.

Continue exploring...

You may also be asking...
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💜 Why am I so Anxious?
💜 How do I stop worrying?
💜 How do I stop feeling so stressed?
💜 How do I improve my life when I don't even know where to begin?

Each Bridge Page is another gentle step toward remembering the wholeness that's already within you.  When you're ready, click into The 1:11 Lodge for more discussions.

There's no rush.
The light is always on.

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